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Growing Relationships with God

· by John · Read in about 7 min · (1374 Words)
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Growing relationships with God and people… bringing salvation to all

This is part 1 of 3.

People seek answers to questions such as:

  • Why is it important that we do what we do Sunday mornings?
  • Why do we need to look to God?
  • Will I find God’s direction for me through His people?
  • Will I get the help I need?
  • Will I decide with other people to be aligned with and fulfill God’s purposes?

There is a purpose for each and every believer in Christ Jesus

Ephesians 2:8-10

8For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.

God’s plan is for all of us to progress and become in Christ. Hebrews 5:12 says:

For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you have need again for someone to teach you the elementary principles of the oracles of God, and you have come to need milk and not solid food.

There is a growth process that believers in Christ must continue to go through. This process happens in your relationship with God.

If you are a believer in Jesus Christ you are called to ministry and you are a minister. You are called to minister to God and to people.

Ephesians 4:13-16

13until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. 14As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; 15but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, 16from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.


Alignment is the arrangement of all ministries and ministers around the same simple process.

Alignment means that we submit and attach ourselves to God’s specifications (His blueprint, which is the Word). Alignment ensures unity. Unity is very important.

John 17:23

“I in them and You in Me, that they may be perfected in unity, so that the world may know that You sent Me, and loved them, even as You have loved Me.

Notice why the Lord Jesus prayed that we may be perfected in unity (read the rest of the verse above).

Ephesians 4:1-7

1Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, 2with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, 3being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 4There is one body and one Spirit, just as also you were called in one hope of your calling; 5one Lord, one faith, one baptism, 6one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all. 7But to each one of us grace was given according to the measure of Christ’s gift.

Alignment means we are operating from and using the same blueprint (the Word of God).

People don’t know where to start

Chutes and Ladders Churches

Many churches nowadays look like a game of Chutes and Ladders. The goals of the game:

  • Scramble to the top of the board without slip-sliding down
  • Land on good deeds to climb ladders
  • Watch out for the slide (bad deeds)
  • Be the first player to reach the 100 square

All kinds of different ministries are headed in different directions and there is no focus or alignment, much less unity.

A useful lesson from cars

Cars must have the angles of the wheels adjusted to the car maker’s specifications. This is called wheel alignment. The purpose of wheel alignment is to:

  • reduce tire wear
  • ensure that the car travels straight and true without pulling to one side
  • adjust the angles to obtain certain handling characteristics

It is no fun driving a car when the wheels are trying to go in different directions. Yes, you may get to your destination, but at a much higher cost due to the pulling and tire wear. It is the same thing with us in the Body of Christ.

Growing your relationship with God alignment

Where are you in the process of growing your relationships with God and people?

Take an honest assessment of some things. On a scale of 1 to 10:

  • How important do you think growing your relationship with God is?
    • What have you done to demonstrate its importance?
  • How important do you think growing your relationship with people is?
    • What have you done to demonstrate its importance?
  • How important has your relationship with God been?
    • What have you done to demonstrate its importance?

The world needs us. Notice it is relationships and not just relationship. They are always together.

Jacob’s Ladder

Genesis 28:10-12

10Then Jacob departed from Beersheba and went toward Haran. 11He came to a certain place and spent the night there, because the sun had set; and he took one of the stones of the place and put it under his head, and lay down in that place. 12He had a dream, and behold, a ladder was set on the earth with its top reaching to heaven; and behold, the angels of God were ascending and descending on it.

Notice there was ascending and descending going on. Ascending to God and descending to the earth (people).

The RELATE Ladder

The goal of the RELATE Ladder is to go up and then come down. In other words, we start by growing our relationship with God. Then we grow relationships with people. Then we use the RELATE relationships principles and ride the slide to the place of ministry where growth continues.

The RELATE Ladder

The first rung: growing relationship with God

Eternal life is happening right now every Sunday morning

The entry point into the process begins Sunday morning. Growing your relationship with God means showing up Sunday. Come and join us in a safe place. Relax. Welcome. There is a place and room for the kids. They will be loved and well taken care of. Just connect with God.

God the Holy Spirit drew you here for His purposes. It is no accident. Be inspired each week to grow in Him. Sunday mornings can be eternally life-changing and God connecting.

It is very important for each person to be welcomed and received. God is working. Welcoming and receiving each other opens the door with God and with people. The service is about growing and connecting with Jesus Christ.

You need to be in the house of the Lord.

Alignment is important every Sunday morning! Focus! But no legalism. God must be first in all things.

Hebrews 10:19-25

19Therefore, brethren, since we have confidence to enter the holy place by the blood of Jesus, 20by a new and living way which He inaugurated for us through the veil, that is, His flesh, 21and since we have a great priest over the house of God, 22let us draw near with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. 23Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful; 24and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, 25not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.

Stop church shopping. Seek God and where He wants you to be. Allow Him to work in you and give you direction. Then obey Him. The first step is coming on Sunday morning.

Scripture quotations taken from the NASB.